Guys gain attention differently. Others do it effortlessly while some don’t have much luck with it. How come it is easy for some guys to attract girls? What is it with them that girls admire? How about you? Are you worth a second look?

Look closely at the answers. They may not what you expect to know. It is true that looks matter a lot but there are more factors to regard when it comes to attracting the opposite sex than just being physical.

Rather, it is more of abilities. Three abilities on top of the others, to be precise. These are communication, respect, and taking control.

Great Talks

More often than not, the art of communication is not taken too seriously for many. Or, it may not be practiced too well. The truth is, communication is regarded as the primary foundation to entice women in general. How a man favors himself is revealed by the way he carries a conversation.

Typically, girls evaluate a guy by the way he talks. The first few minutes is crucial in assessing whether a guy is at ease and confident with himself. In short, girls find good conversationalist guys to be truly attractive as this is indicative of being confident.

Confidence, by the way, is a sure way to attract a girl. Therefore, master the art of communication and have any woman be interested in you.

Respect

It is most likely that how you regard yourself is how you treat others. Therefore, if you respect yourself that much, then girls can expect to be treated the same way. Upon seeing how much you value yourself, girls will have a good reason to be attracted to you simply because they know they are in good hands.

Certainly, girls overly admire guys who know their self-worth and know how to value any girl they meet. So, the more you value yourself, the more you appear alluring to girls.

Take Control

Control yourself not to chase girls around. This is certainly not attractive. Girls do not like to see guys running around in pursuit of gorgeous ladies.

Or, have girls follow your trail. Girls chasing after you sounds fairly attractive and makes you the in demand bachelor in town.

You do not have to be born with some special force to lure girls towards you. To attract girls is about developing some abilities and taking control. It is knowing what your potentials are and using them for good causes.

And apart from the mentioned ways to get girls attention, you also have to be aware of what works and what does not. Remember, everyone and every situation is different. It is vital that you pay attention to details and personalities.

The single most important skill every man should have is knowing how to approach women, because if you don’t know how to do this, you’re going to be at a serious disadvantage when it comes to meeting your dream girl…

It’s important that you know how to approach a girl the right way. Let’s go over some tactics that will help you to be more successful than the average guy. Remember a situation where you were going to approach a girl, and before you could even get a single word out, she freaked out and simply rejected you?

It wasn’t anything you were about to say, or even your intentions. She might have really liked you if you approached her in a different way. But once you freak out a girl, it’s not easy to turn that situation around. The most important thing to remember when approaching women is to come off as NON-THREATENING and to not, under any circumstances, telegraph your interest in them too early.

This is about by-passing a girl’s defenses and flying in “under the radar.” It’s the woman’s reality that she constantly gets guys approaching her and trying to pick her up, so her natural inclination is to nip this in the bud quickly by outright REJECTING any man who seems interested in her. Most men don’t realize how annoying it can be for women to constantly be approached by guys who run the gamut from big time loser to big time creep. Because of this, women just don’t want to deal with yet “another pick-up attempt.”

However, approaching women is fun and easy if you know the RIGHT WAY to do it!

I guess the big question is – what’s the right way to approach a woman?

First – YOU MUST ACT FAST.

Waiting too long before you approach a woman will give you a chance to talk yourself out of meeting her.

Secondly, know what you’re going to start the conversation with BEFORE you approach the girl. This will make meeting women much easier because you don’t have to spend time thinking of what to say before you feel comfortable walking up to meet her. So having a good pick-up line in your hip pocket to use in these situations is probably a good idea.

Now, when I use the term “pick up line,” I don’t mean the “Nice shirt, want to have sex?” type of line that’ll get you slapped in the face. Remember, you need to be NON-THREATENING!

The best lines usually engage the girl in an innocent conversation. You can do so by asking her opinion on something and then following that up with more questions. An important tip you should be aware of is to always approach a woman at an angle instead of charging towards her like you’re going to war! When you approach at an angle, it’s much less confrontational and you’re going to subconsciously put the woman more at ease than if you approached her head-on.

Remember: great pick ups can only happen when the girl is comfortable with you. That’s why it’s so important for YOU to feel comfortable when you’re talking to girls! It’s natural to feel uncomfortable meeting attractive women, but remember – practice makes perfect! If you take the time to go out and practice meeting women, over time it will become easier and you’ll be more comfortable with doing it.

Let me tell you – getting good at approaching women is not going to happen if all you do is read about it or study it! If you’re worried about being rejected, just look at it as a game. The ONLY thing you’re doing is approaching women. You’re not asking her out, you’re not trying to get her into bed, your only goal is to carry on some type of conversation.

That’s it! Make it a game by seeing how many girls you can talk to in one day, and then try and beat your score.

Finally, use a “time constraint” when approaching women. This is as simple as telling her you’ve only got a minute to talk to her because you’ve got to get back to your friends or whatever you’re doing.

You want to do this because if she feels this approach is just a “momentary” distraction, and you’re not trying to “impose” yourself on her, she’ll be more willing to engage you in your approach. If the initial approach goes well and the conversation continues, she will eventually forget you said you can only talk for a “minute” and you can talk as long as you want. The whole point is just to get your “foot in the door.”

Be aware that the dating game is actually a numbers game. You need to meet as many women as possible to find that one special girl who will change your life.

No one can predict a woman (even other women), this is why first date always an exciting event for every men. The unknown makes your heart bit faster in anticipation of something great. However, you want to win, not to lose. Where is this difference between victory and loss, between awkwardness and smoothness, between all these small things, which in sum lead to the second date or lead nowhere? Here are seven tips on dating, especially first date, which I am going to share with you.

Tip 1: Prepare your plan of the date thoroughly. Place, time, program: all elements of your first date must be well thought. Moreover, make sure that aside from plan A, you have also plan B: just in case if she would not like something in A or, perhaps, because the meeting place will happen to be closed that day (of course, avoiding things like that is precisely the reason why I am giving you this tip). Use what you already know about her: if she is your online match, then you know her profile and you had enough chat with her to figure this out. For example, if you know that she is not a baseball fan, do not try to convince her that she is missing a great deal of fun in her life, do not take her to a stadium, take her to museum instead. Yes, museum of art would be in many cases the best setting for a first date. Beautiful objects of art, quietness and safety at the same time: what else will give you a better atmosphere for a first romantic meeting? Dont forget: she has never seen you before, so personal safety will be an issue for her (probably not the major one, but, still an issue). From the first meeting point you can move to another (cafe, restaurant, night club), but remember that the choice of the first spot is the most important one.

Tip 2. By no means do not get late. According to modern psychology an opinion about person is formed over the first 15 seconds of a meeting. Do not let her to spend these 15 seconds just dully waiting for you. Women hate when someone makes them wait (I made this rhythmic by a coincidence, but it is still a great truth about women). No, you do not want her to stay there and think about those million useful things, which she could do instead of waiting for you. So, just do not be late, period.

Tip 3: Your external appearance must be more than just spotless. I am sure you know that without me, but just let me to emphasize this fact, which is never enough to emphasize: you must look great! You better look like you just stepped from a front cover of a fashion magazine (or, at least, try to approach this state as much as you can). After spending at least two hours before mirror she wants to find signs of a similar commitment in you. So do not disappoint her: your attire, your shoes, your fragrance, even the teeth in your smile, everything will be considered over those 15 seconds, which you must win!

Tip 4: Flowers and Flowers only! Rings of pearls (better saltwater), diamonds and everything made out of gold is what 98% of women want to get from you, but do not make this to happen on the first date. Just keep this in mind for the future. On the first date bring her one red rose (or, maybe a dozen, but not overdo it); so she will know that the man she just met has a great taste and is worth (hopefully) to be seen again.

Tip 5: Be gentleman. Just keep it old-fashioned way: open doors before her, let her first to the table, pool out a chair for her, etc. If you will have a chance helping her to take off (or put on) her coat: do not miss it, this is a chance to give her a hug, a small step in the right direction. So, the bottom line: be a gentleman, do not fear to be perceived as one: even a hard core feminist will appreciate your efforts.

Tip 6: Compliments and more compliments. Women love them. First sentence after your initial greetings must be: You look great! (Fantastic, gorgeous, terrific ). And keep this tone for the rest of the evening: your effort will be appreciated!

Tip 7: Speak less, listen more. Women usually want to know about you, but even more they would like to tell about themselves. Give her this opportunity: ask questions and listen attentively everything she says. Of course, you have to listen actively, support her with short phrases, like “Is that right?!”, “Yeah, I see”, “Interesting” and keep nodding. If there will come your turn to talk, it is a bad idea to talk about your past wives and lovers, about issues with your health, about problems at work or on any religious subjects. Your task is to find a topic of common interest (while she is talking) and develop it. Look into her eyes, smile, show her a good sense of humor, and definitely do not try to tell her everything about yourself, leave it to your second, third, n-th date with her, which will surely happen if you will follow these simple rules.

No one can predict a woman (even other women), this is why first date always an exciting event for every men. The unknown makes your heart bit faster in anticipation of something great. However, you want to win, not to lose. Where is this difference between victory and loss, between awkwardness and smoothness, between all these small things, which in sum lead to the second date or lead nowhere? Here are seven tips on dating, especially first date, which I am going to share with you.

Tip 1: Prepare your plan of the date thoroughly. Place, time, program: all elements of your first date must be well thought. Moreover, make sure that aside from plan A, you have also plan B: just in case if she would not like something in A or, perhaps, because the meeting place will happen to be closed that day (of course, avoiding things like that is precisely the reason why I am giving you this tip). Use what you already know about her: if she is your online match, then you know her profile and you had enough chat with her to figure this out. For example, if you know that she is not a baseball fan, do not try to convince her that she is missing a great deal of fun in her life, do not take her to a stadium, take her to museum instead. Yes, museum of art would be in many cases the best setting for a first date. Beautiful objects of art, quietness and safety at the same time: what else will give you a better atmosphere for a first romantic meeting? Dont forget: she has never seen you before, so personal safety will be an issue for her (probably not the major one, but, still an issue). From the first meeting point you can move to another (cafe, restaurant, night club), but remember that the choice of the first spot is the most important one.

Tip 2: Be there in time. It is scientifically proven fact that the first 15 seconds of meeting form an opinion about a person. If you will not get there in time, you will not get even these 15 seconds! Nobody likes when someone makes them wait, especially women. They usually fill the waiting time with thinking about million of those useful things, which they could do instead of standing here and just waiting. And, it usually does not take them too long to decide that they better do these things, rather than wasting their time on that slipshod fellow who is obviously not in a hurry to meet her. Likely you will not see her again.

Tip 3: Your appearance must be perfect. Perhaps you can figure this out without my tips, but, I hope, you will be OK if I will just confirm it: yes, you should look like you just came from a probe for a front cover of Esquire (if they would ever published a man on their front cover). Well, Entertainment Weekly, or whatever, you have got the point. Rest assured that before the meeting with you she spent several hours before the mirror as if she was preparing for such probe, so you better be a good match to her. She will be expecting this from you and this is what will take some fraction of those 15 seconds, which I have mentioned earlier. So you better be perfect in your flawless clothes and shiny shoes, these simple (almost silly) things will help you to win those 15 seconds.

Tip 4: Flowers Rule! Women love getting gifts on any season and occasion (and certainly with no occasion too). This date is the best reason for giving her a gift! The bouquet of flowers is a sure shot. Or, one red rose is even better (not too much and tasty). The majority of women will appreciate such gesture. This will give them a reason to tell the world that they have met a tasteful man.

Tip 5: Be kind. Do not afraid of being perceived as an old-fashioned gent. Opening doors before her, pooling chairs for her, letting her in first, and so on will not hurt you at all, just opposite. Even diehard feminist would like to be treated that way. Help her to take off her coat: you can hug her slightly and this will be a step in a right direction.

Tip 6: Compliments and more compliments. Women love them. First sentence after your initial greetings must be: You look great! (Fantastic, gorgeous, terrific ). And keep this tone for the rest of the evening: your effort will be appreciated!

Tip 7. Listen more than talk. There is no doubt that she is curious about you and there is a plenty of things which she wants to find out. However, it is very likely that even more she wants to tell you about herself. So do not disappoint her, let her speak and help her. Simple nodding from your side will not be enough: keep saying briefly: Yes; Sure, How interesting; Is that right?, etc. Eventually there will be your turn to speak, find some way to return the ball to her field, and while it is still in your hands, by no means mention your past loves, problems at work or with your health and any religious issues. Find the topic of common interest and let her develop it. Your good sense of humor will be a big plus. And just keep in mind that you need to save a lot for talking at your next date with her, which will surely happen if you would follow these simple tips.

Women are unpredictable beings, and even a thought about first date makes majority of men tremble either from agitation, or from fear of being unfit, or both. What line of behavior one should take? Being like a medieval chevalier, confident and benevolent master of his fiefdom, or like a man appreciating the liberties of modern society, who is treating his lady as an equal? Where is this thin line which divides goodness from awkwardness, attraction from repulsion? Here are seven useful tips, which I would like to share with you:

Tip 1: Be a perfect planner. Think over all elements of your first date: time, place, entertainment program. Better: prepare two options, and, if you would feel any hesitation on the other side regarding your best plan, offer plan B. If you met her online, you already know (from her personal profile, from your email exchange) what turns her on. Still, keep in mind that she has never seen you before, so the choice of the place must be such, that she will feel safe and confident there. Looking for a nice and comforting place for first meeting: what that should be? It is always good to propose first meeting at a local museum of art or any other place of this kind. You can always find in such places a small cafe nearby or just a bench to sit and talk, it is usually quiet there, safe and peaceful, and you will be surrounded by beautiful objects of art. From there you can move to whatever is a next stop in your plan: restaurant, cinema, theater, vinery, or night club, however, keep in mind that sometimes it is better to leave such places for the next date.

Tip 2: Do not be late. Psychologists say that opinion about a person is usually formed over the first 15 seconds of a meeting: you may not get even that much, if you will get late. If these 15 seconds (or even few minutes) of her time will be filled with waiting, well, you just do not want this to happen. Women hate when someone makes them wait: in this state their mind offers them a million of things which they could do with better outcome than just mere standing and waiting. The rest is just a matter how long she can stand this condition, usually not too long before she will take-off and leave. Then you will arrive and will be waiting for nothing to happen: you have to blame for that yourself!

Tip 3: Look neatly. Maybe I should not tell you that, maybe you are well aware of this simple fact, that when you are coming to a date (especially first date) you should look like you just jumped from a vintage postcard! Nevertheless, I have to mention this anyway, at least for the sake of those who forgot this simple rule. Women like when man looks like he took care of his appearance. Of course, everything counts and everything will be noticed: attire, shoes, hair, fragrance, even teeth and fingernails! Undoubtedly, she had spent several hours before mirror, making herself look special so she expects same from you! Do not get me wrong, you do not have to go for a day in a beauty parlor, just put some effort into it, so you will look attractive. Shower, shave, wrinkleless clothes and shiny shoes are those necessary elements which will make you feel good about yourself and help you to win those 15 seconds, which I have mentioned above.

Tip 4: Flowers Rule! Women love getting gifts on any season and occasion (and certainly with no occasion too). This date is the best reason for giving her a gift! The bouquet of flowers is a sure shot. Or, one red rose is even better (not too much and tasty). The majority of women will appreciate such gesture. This will give them a reason to tell the world that they have met a classy man.

Tip 5: Be gentleman. Just keep it old-fashioned way: open doors before her, let her first to the table, pool out a chair for her, etc. If you will have a chance helping her to take off (or put on) her coat: do not miss it, this is a chance to give her a hug, a small step in the right direction. So, the bottom line: be a gentleman, do not fear to be perceived as one: even a diehard feminist will appreciate your efforts.

Tip 6. Be generous with compliments. This is what every woman would love and will expect from you. Your first words (after the formal intro) should be in any way saying how great, gorgeous, fantastic she looks. In a sense this is one of the tasks which you have to perform over all meeting: finding right moments and giving right compliments any time you have a chance. Your effort will be always appreciated.

Tip 7. Listen more than talk. There is no doubt that she is curious about you and there is a plenty of things which she wants to find out. However, it is very likely that even more she wants to tell you about herself. So do not disappoint her, let her speak and help her. Simple nodding from your side will not be enough: keep saying briefly: Yes; Sure, How interesting; Is that right?, etc. Eventually there will be your turn to speak, find some way to return the ball to her field, and while it is still in your hands, by no means mention your past loves, problems at work or with your health and any religious issues. Find the topic of common interest and let her develop it. Your good sense of humor will be a big plus. And just keep in mind that you need to save a lot for talking at your next date with her, which will surely happen if you would follow these simple tips.