Guys gain attention differently. Others do it effortlessly while some don’t have much luck with it. How come it is easy for some guys to attract girls? What is it with them that girls admire? How about you? Are you worth a second look?

Look closely at the answers. They may not what you expect to know. It is true that looks matter a lot but there are more factors to regard when it comes to attracting the opposite sex than just being physical.

Rather, it is more of abilities. Three abilities on top of the others, to be precise. These are communication, respect, and taking control.

Great Talks

More often than not, the art of communication is not taken too seriously for many. Or, it may not be practiced too well. The truth is, communication is regarded as the primary foundation to entice women in general. How a man favors himself is revealed by the way he carries a conversation.

Typically, girls evaluate a guy by the way he talks. The first few minutes is crucial in assessing whether a guy is at ease and confident with himself. In short, girls find good conversationalist guys to be truly attractive as this is indicative of being confident.

Confidence, by the way, is a sure way to attract a girl. Therefore, master the art of communication and have any woman be interested in you.

Respect

It is most likely that how you regard yourself is how you treat others. Therefore, if you respect yourself that much, then girls can expect to be treated the same way. Upon seeing how much you value yourself, girls will have a good reason to be attracted to you simply because they know they are in good hands.

Certainly, girls overly admire guys who know their self-worth and know how to value any girl they meet. So, the more you value yourself, the more you appear alluring to girls.

Take Control

Control yourself not to chase girls around. This is certainly not attractive. Girls do not like to see guys running around in pursuit of gorgeous ladies.

Or, have girls follow your trail. Girls chasing after you sounds fairly attractive and makes you the in demand bachelor in town.

You do not have to be born with some special force to lure girls towards you. To attract girls is about developing some abilities and taking control. It is knowing what your potentials are and using them for good causes.

And apart from the mentioned ways to get girls attention, you also have to be aware of what works and what does not. Remember, everyone and every situation is different. It is vital that you pay attention to details and personalities.

This is the fundamental concept of attraction – when you make other people feel good, they will want to be around you.

There are various sizes and shapes of insecurity, such as: They could be too old. Some men think they are too fat. They could be too short. Some men think they are too ugly.

I want to take a moment and dispel a few attraction myths that hold men back from achieving success in their love life.

Myth #1 – You must be good looking to attract girls.

Take a good look around and take not of the different types of men who date attractive women, and you can see this is not true. Simply put, it is essential to look good regardless of your physical attractiveness. Is there a difference?

The difference is, you may not escape your looks, but you do control your presentation of what looks you do have by the way you groom and wear your hair as well as how you smell and the clothes you wear, and so forth. Taking control of your appearance makes any man more attractive.

Myth #2 – Women Think Just As Men Do

Naturally, you and I think that everyone else sees the same things the same way in which we see others.

Take for instance that huge pimple on your forehead, you think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin and no one knows it is there besides you.

So naturally, you assume women are going to size you up the same exact way.

Incorrect.

Women judge men differently to decide on an attraction than men do, although that is not to imply that a woman would not care if a man were attractive or not. Even so, women do not consider physical characteristics in the same way as men do.

To women, attraction is based more around how men make them feel, rather than how the men look. That is why women are attracted to confidence and social status. They’re attracted to men who make them laugh. They’re attracted to men who are good at what they do. See how this works? Looks have very little to do with any of this.

Myth #3 – Women Notice Our Insecurities

Keep in mind that we know our own self, better than anyone ever will. We see all our flaws, such as our large noses and ears, a weak chin or receding hairline.

We see it, no matter what it is.

Since we see it very plainly, we merely assume everyone else can too. Nevertheless, many individuals are not observant at all, unless they search for and issue to analyze about you. If you have insecurities, as we all do most likely they wont even care, since we all focus so highly of our own.

Do you know that most women are not aware of your insecurities and only notice them when you call their attention to them? So forget about your insecurities rather than trying to diffuse or dismiss them by calling the attention of others as to why you may think you are ugly.

Besides, insecurity is very unattractive. Think about it. It’s important, in every situation, that you always focus on the good stuff about you, instead of your shortcomings, and have the positives outshine the negatives.

Myth #4 – Attractive Men Have It Easy

This is probably the biggest myth there is – that if a guy is good looking, girls are going to automatically flock to him.

Attraction is the art of magnifying the emotional connection that a woman feels for you, when you are around, this connection will only occur when you are around her, therefore to feel those feelings she will want you to be around her.

If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is attracted to him, since her preference of features brings her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible, boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.

However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn’t initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure – she WILL become attracted to him eventually.

Making others feel good causes them to want to be with you, this is a fundamental of attraction.

You don’t have to be a good guy to make women feel good! You just need to know how to interact with them.

As you lead a woman towards sexual attraction, she begins seeing you in a new perspective, despite your shortcomings or looks.

The single most important skill every man should have is knowing how to approach women, because if you don’t know how to do this, you’re going to be at a serious disadvantage when it comes to meeting your dream girl…

It’s important that you know how to approach a girl the right way. Let’s go over some tactics that will help you to be more successful than the average guy. Remember a situation where you were going to approach a girl, and before you could even get a single word out, she freaked out and simply rejected you?

It wasn’t anything you were about to say, or even your intentions. She might have really liked you if you approached her in a different way. But once you freak out a girl, it’s not easy to turn that situation around. The most important thing to remember when approaching women is to come off as NON-THREATENING and to not, under any circumstances, telegraph your interest in them too early.

This is about by-passing a girl’s defenses and flying in “under the radar.” It’s the woman’s reality that she constantly gets guys approaching her and trying to pick her up, so her natural inclination is to nip this in the bud quickly by outright REJECTING any man who seems interested in her. Most men don’t realize how annoying it can be for women to constantly be approached by guys who run the gamut from big time loser to big time creep. Because of this, women just don’t want to deal with yet “another pick-up attempt.”

However, approaching women is fun and easy if you know the RIGHT WAY to do it!

I guess the big question is – what’s the right way to approach a woman?

First – YOU MUST ACT FAST.

Waiting too long before you approach a woman will give you a chance to talk yourself out of meeting her.

Secondly, know what you’re going to start the conversation with BEFORE you approach the girl. This will make meeting women much easier because you don’t have to spend time thinking of what to say before you feel comfortable walking up to meet her. So having a good pick-up line in your hip pocket to use in these situations is probably a good idea.

Now, when I use the term “pick up line,” I don’t mean the “Nice shirt, want to have sex?” type of line that’ll get you slapped in the face. Remember, you need to be NON-THREATENING!

The best lines usually engage the girl in an innocent conversation. You can do so by asking her opinion on something and then following that up with more questions. An important tip you should be aware of is to always approach a woman at an angle instead of charging towards her like you’re going to war! When you approach at an angle, it’s much less confrontational and you’re going to subconsciously put the woman more at ease than if you approached her head-on.

Remember: great pick ups can only happen when the girl is comfortable with you. That’s why it’s so important for YOU to feel comfortable when you’re talking to girls! It’s natural to feel uncomfortable meeting attractive women, but remember – practice makes perfect! If you take the time to go out and practice meeting women, over time it will become easier and you’ll be more comfortable with doing it.

Let me tell you – getting good at approaching women is not going to happen if all you do is read about it or study it! If you’re worried about being rejected, just look at it as a game. The ONLY thing you’re doing is approaching women. You’re not asking her out, you’re not trying to get her into bed, your only goal is to carry on some type of conversation.

That’s it! Make it a game by seeing how many girls you can talk to in one day, and then try and beat your score.

Finally, use a “time constraint” when approaching women. This is as simple as telling her you’ve only got a minute to talk to her because you’ve got to get back to your friends or whatever you’re doing.

You want to do this because if she feels this approach is just a “momentary” distraction, and you’re not trying to “impose” yourself on her, she’ll be more willing to engage you in your approach. If the initial approach goes well and the conversation continues, she will eventually forget you said you can only talk for a “minute” and you can talk as long as you want. The whole point is just to get your “foot in the door.”

Be aware that the dating game is actually a numbers game. You need to meet as many women as possible to find that one special girl who will change your life.